Eternal Enemy
Posted by erin at April 15, 2003 04:25 PMRecently a coworker (not my boss) who I considered a sort-of work-friend totally got pissed off at me. She's still holding out the not-speaking-to-me act after a week or more, and will only email me if it's also CC'ed to our manager.
On one hand, this saddens me deeply, and the fall-out from the fight had me crying at my desk, twice. (I would cry in the bathroom, like a girl, but too many people go in and out of the bathroom, whereas my desk faces the window.) My job was bad enough already, and I had considered D--- a sort of ally against the madness here. Instead, it turns out she too, is mad (both in the angry and in the crazy way).
On the other hand, I have more time to do my work now, since I don't have to explain it all to D--- every day, and I have less work to do, since she's more hesitant to give stuff to me.
The weird part is that I'm not really sure why she freaked out in the first place. I had a high priority project that tied me up for the better part of the week. It was the sort of project where I really couldn't work on anything else, but D--- kept bugging me to do other things. I couldn't do what she asked, so I didn't, and she got really, really mad and won't talk to me about it civally.
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April 15, 2003 06:24 PM, John said:
I too have an irritating and irrational co-worker and it's very painful. Not only do you have to work with them, you also have to move around them and stay out of their way and all the usual BS.
I personally think that girls are even a bit crazier and meaner about this than guys. Guys tend to be very open and verbal about their feelings (note the use of TEND), while girls will keep the reason as secret as possible, until it boils and festers into hatred.
Okay. That's dark. But what can I say? Perhaps a big talk is due. That seems to be the only way to 'clear the air' at least temporarily. Think of it like popping a zit or something.
ugh. That's actually, quite a disgusting metaphor. Maybe pulling off a band-aid is better.
April 15, 2003 06:25 PM, Phil X said:
Only one possible solution:
Report her to your manager, get her fired, take her old job, then give me yours.
April 16, 2003 10:15 AM, Erin said:
That is one strategy, Phil... I think you might be onto something.
Actually, D---'s worked here for something like 10 years, so the chances of me getting her fired are very low. The chances of me getting myself fired are much better, and Hal has eagerly volenteered to help!
John... yup... a talking to is in order, but I already tried to have such a talk by arranging a meeting with my manager as a mediator of sorts. D--- didn't go to the meeting.
N. has an even crazier girl co-worker, who sits right behind him because of the desk arrangement, and stares at the back of his head all day. She's super-paranoid about everything, ever.
April 16, 2003 01:53 PM, Maggie said:
Erin, that does suck, especially that it makes you cry. When you get fired, you should take her down with you. I'm sure Hal could help you come up with an appropriate solution.
April 17, 2003 01:46 AM, Halifax said:
I too have an irrational coworker. He recently insisted that COPS (fighting crime in a future time) had better animation than classic Warner Bros. shorts, and he refuses to acknowledge places where the animators of COPS violated the "parallax effect" (or whatever you call it) by panning across a drawing without adjusting the backgrounds--even after I rewound and showed it to him again.
Who could he be?
April 18, 2003 04:31 PM, Eugene said:
COPS! "Central Organization for Police Specialists"... Remember when they tried to revive the show and changed the title to "CyberCops" for syndication? As if I wouldn't realize it was an old show! The fools.
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